I sent fake text to bf from his ex to see if he would cheat?
September 10, 2010
Question by Feeby: I sent fake text to bf from his ex to see if he would cheat?
Im not proud of myself but I have been feeling a little doubtful of my bf and I used another phone to send him a text from his ex-gf to see if he would bite. he did. in his text he said how much he cared about her, and that he had a gf he loved but would she want to start something. he actually said ‘if we get gripped then we are mates, you stick up fro me and I stick up for you ‘ !!!!
I dont know his ex and have never met her , she contacted me through facebook once but i didnt reply. but he never said he missed her etc, apparently she was really bad to him but it seems that he would be happy to basically have sex with her. He even said what are you doing tomorrow, wanna meet up for a catchup?
He said in his text that he loves his gf (me) but cant help but care about her, I then responded and said that I was going to grass him up to his gf, as his ex is a well known troublemaker and known to be a tart. He then turned and was obviously worried and started saying if you do that I will come to your workplace, and started to swear etc.
i know its not a nice thing to do but please tell me what you think. He actually called me in the morning and told me what happened, he didnt know it was me and he obviously left out the part where he said about them hooking up. we have been together for a while, In the summer I found out he was cheating on me, we went through hell as I wanted out. but for some reason I do love him.
I assume he called me to tell me because he thought ‘she’ would contact me.
I really need some advice and i cant talk to my family or friends as they dont like him from what happened last time. I have my own home and good job, basically he has none of that and he is older and more concerned with how he looks than anything. my family want me to move on. He has an admin type role and has a very high opinion of himself and recently decided to pursue a modelling career !! He is 35 and even though I think he is good looking, he is not model attractive, i dont know where he gets these ideas from.
He really claimed to change and i did see differences, his family even said so, that since we had our break up in the summer, he stopped drinking etc.
I spoke to his friend yesterday about what happened and he said that a few years ago he cheated on his then gf with this tarty ex gf. it was just a sex thing and he said basically she humiliated him and dumped him and told his gf everything to get him in trouble.
I know she didnt really contact him and nothing will happen, but he did bite the bait, do you think once a cheater always a cheater ? Please help me im so confused.
Best answer:
Answer by Missy
Oh girl, you have the proof in your hands that this man is just not going to be faithful to you. Yes he says he loves you but he doesn’t show it by his actions by “attempting to hook up with someone else” if it really was her who contacted him, he would have cheated on you again. I believe once a cheater always a cheater, unless something drastic happens to that person. I think it would be best if you moved on to someone who is going to love you and prove it by his actions, someone who will be sweet and faithful to you.
Hope everything goes well with you! =)
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Okay, I’ve been there. I can honestly say that it wont get any easier. And that’s something you really don’t wanna hear, but it’s the truth. I was with a man who did the same thing. I went into the relationship knowing he would cheat, and he did. I confronted him about it and he said no no no. So I did what you did, and texted him on a friends phone saying I was another girl he just met. He bit the bait. I took that phone with all his dirty talk about sex and showed it to his face, and even then he lied his ass off. I loved him. He loved me, but there was something that he just wasn’t ready to commit too.
A good way to tell he just isn’t the ‘right’ guy for you, is your family and friends. They are the ones you need to really listen to. I mean yes, YOU are the only one who can make the final decision. But, you are also the one with the weak heart for him.
Another thing is, of course his family wants you to be with him. They know he’ll probably never get a better girlfriend then you.
One more thing. You sound like a very independent and strong person. Don’t give up everything you have worked for, for someone who is willing to through his side of the relationship away at any point and time.
Make an epic exit. Print out the message, post it to all neighbors you know and throw it around the house. Wait til he gets back, call him a pathetic b*astard, then slap him. Oh, then walk out.